Sportsmanship is not accomplished simply by slapping hands…the post-game handshake represents not gloating and not whining. But the actual value at the heart of sportsmanship…is empathy. How would you feel, sportsmanship asks, if the other guy ruined your taste of victory or humiliated you in your time of defeat?
Oscar Wilde said that if you know what you want to be, then you inevitably become it - that is your punishment, but if you never know, then you can be anything. There is a truth to that. We are not nouns, we are verbs. I am not a thing - an actor, a writer - I am a person who does things - I write, I act - and I never know what I am going to do next. I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a noun.